Girls love guys who are in control because it radiates confidence. It sub communicates power and that she can rely on this kind of guy. You must learn to become a guy who is always in control of himself and the situations around him.
How do we do this?
First, you must know what you want, and go for it without any fears. Then it’s important to lead. Don’t expect her to make any decisions. The more you lead her, like choosing where you will go for a date, when you will move to a quieter location in the club, when you will kiss, the more you will exhibit the alpha qualities of a leader. Never make them decide what you are going to do and where you are going to go. Most women want these decisions to be made for them by a confident guy. If she offers her opinion, be democratic, but still lead and decide what the final decision is going to be. They love when you decide for them and when you take control of things.
For example, let her choose the time but you choose the location and the rest. It looks like fifty-fifty, but actually, you have asserted that you are the one making decisions. And always be confident in your decisions. Let her know why you chose something and that it’s going to be great. This applies throughout your interaction with a woman. It’s very interesting to see how much girls expect us to take initiative. Just watch them in clubs when they stand in circles with friends and pretend to have fun, waiting for something to happen. In reality, they are there waiting for someone to approach them and sweep them off their feet. It’s what they dream of.
We must take control.
The less you expect from her and the less she has to do in seduction process, the stronger your game will be. You will be much more successful when you take control. Never ask for permission when you decide to do something, i.e., “Would you like to dance?” “Would you like to sit over there?” etc. Just make a statement, “Let’s go sit over here.” “I’m going to take you to this amazing tapas bar.”
When she is uncomfortable in a situation, take control and make the changes required to make her feel comfortable.
Example: You are making out with her, but you can feel that the people around are making her feel uncomfortable. Take the lead and move her to a place where she feels more discreet. You need to pay attention to how she feels all the time. Don’t ask her because you will get the wrong answers. Instead, keep checking her body language and try to sense how she feels.
Watch, listen and be aware.
Every so often ask yourself, “Does she feel okay right now with me? What I can do to make her feel even more relaxed and comfortable?” It will pay dividends… When I say be a leader, that’s exactly what I mean. Pay attention to the people around you, lead them and make them feel the best in every situation possible. If you see it hurts her to stand in high heels, don’t ask, “ Would you like to sit down?” because she will probably say no because her friends are over here, she doesn’t want to seem like she’s being picked up, or some other reason. Instead say, “Lets go over there and sit down.” She will follow because it’s simpler to follow than to decide and she REALLY wants to sit down. You haven’t forced her to make a decision and by taking a little initiative, you’ve isolated the girl from her group to a better seduction location. Using the same principle…
It’s 2 AM, and of course after clubbing everyone is hungry. All you need to say is, “Hey, I’m hungry, lets get some food. You can keep me company,” and you are halfway home. If you ask her, “Would you like to get something to eat,” she will think of a million reasons why she shouldn’t.
Take the lead!
If you develop emotional intelligence, recognize how she feels, and have the courage to be a man who takes initiative, you will become the man who those girls are standing around waiting to meet. And when you take control of all your interactions, you will fi nd that your results will improve dramatically.
