So basically, society tells us that we should buy girls drinks and flowers, be polite, be “ourselves”, kiss ass and be an all around “nice guy”. But for some reason when we follow this advice, we get terrible results.
Why?
Well because for millions of years women were searching for protection, power and safety from their man. Over millions of years, it became part of their genes that they need a real man!
These are innate survival instincts. In primitive times, females were attracted to strong guys with big muscles because back then a guy with big muscles was able to protect his family from intruders and hunt for food. He also had good genes, so if girl chose him to father her babies, her babies would have a much better chances to survive. With time, this choosing of who she is going to mate with became instinctual and wired into her unconscious selection process. Animals do the same thing. They don’t “think” about who will provide the best offspring, they just feel something, some urge in their body towards a particular mate…the same way a girl feels urges towards a certain type of guy.
We call that feeling ATTRACTION.
Hundreds of thousands of years ago, if a girl had the option to mate with a strong, dominant, masculine guy or a weak guy with little power, of course they would choose the masculine guy. Quick jump to our reality — today, girls still have attraction towards dominant males because it has become wired into them through evolution. Things are a little different though…
Today it isn’t just the most muscular guy who has the best chance for survival, though women still find this attractive. It is also the guy with the most social power and confidence who dominates in our world. The guy who is high status, confident and able to get what he wants from the world is the modern alpha male. And women are programmed to be attracted to men who display these alpha qualities, because it’s built into the right Hemisphere of the brain for their protection and the protection of their offspring. Today things like being rich, socially connected or well-built create automatic attraction. But still the feeling behind both things, muscles and money, is the same:
SAFETY and PROTECTION.
The good news is that you don’t need to actually have lots of money or huge muscles to covey that you are the alpha male. You just need to learn to convey through behaviour the traits that signal that you are this type of male. She is wired on an instinctual level to pick up on these signals and her body will subconsciously respond with feelings of attraction.
Learn to behave like an alpha male, a real alpha male and not just some posturing chump, and you can tap into the innate attraction circuitry of a woman’s brain and become irresistible to her.
